Day 154. Trust issues

   Even if I'm almost 25 I still have some bits left from childhood... like the naivety of believing people are generally good. If I see someone who shows kindness and/or affection towards others, including me, I start trusting them. I trust they are good people who are here to make this world a better place. But today... I found out otherwise.

   A person I met months ago and who seemed so very warm hearted and kind, who helped me and always spoke nicely to me has been doing some illegal stuff. I was shocked when I found out. She really didn't seem like the type. Of course, saying "I'm doing VERY well" every morning when I asked her "How she was" gave me an idea something was fishy (since you can't be in a perfect condition every single morning for months) but I thought it was just me. 

   So here's how I found out I have to let go of my childhood belief of blindly trusting people around. I'm not sure I want to be cautious every time I meet a new person from now on but in these past months of working I found out people can be really mean and not worthy of my trust. So maybe trust has to be earned in time, not immediately and maybe, just maybe, people ARE born good but turn bad because they want to get rich, be powerful or feared. Who knows?

Day 152. The lessons of a father

   Work's all right and my days pass looking very similar one to another but the things, people or messages I meet every day make my days special. 

   Today I read a girl's blog post about how she was brought up and the teachings her dad gave her along the childhood years. I was particularly impressed by the wisdom of that father who, of all things, taught his daughter the importance of being kind to the others, treat them the best and not judge people by their appearance but by their "inside". He also said that things have a life of their own and they are meant to break at some point so we shouldn't weep for the broken but accept the fact and replace them with new ones and that, in the end, people are more valuable than things. I wish I will be just as wise when I will be a mother:)

Take a look at the exact words of this amazing father:

"Porcelain dishes aren't important, people are. So, you should serve breakfast, lunch or dinner in porcelain dishes to anybody who enters your home no matter his social class or ethnicity." 

"Never take the last piece of cake from a plate. Maybe somebody didn't have the chance to take any or maybe someone else needs it more than you do." 

 "When you have two apples, give away the biggest and most beautiful of the two. And if other time you receive the small apple, don't complain. Don't have high expectations and don't be greedy."

"Give thanks for every bit of food you receive from somebody. The person who cooked that food has given you a part of her life."

"Don't judge people for their ethnicity for they are not guilty they were born this way. Don't reject people, even if the others reject them. Try to know a person first before saying that he's ugly, stupid or bad."

"Things have their own life. They all have to be replaced at some point."

"Speak to people like you'd be speaking to yourself."

"Gifts aren't meant to be an exchange. You don't have to give back the exact value of the gift you have received."

"You shouldn't choose people to be your friends by their clothes. You should choose them with your eyes closed so you couldn't see their beauty or the things they possess. Don't be ashamed to have a friend who's different." 

 You can find the whole post in Romanian, here: http://www.irinab.com/p/copilarii.html 

   Read it!:) It will change your life and make you appreciate your parents more... And we all need that:)

Day 126. Powerful

   Today I let myself go with the flow. I met my best friend and we indulged ourselves while doing what girls know to do best: shopping:) I bought some new jeans, a coffee Yves Rocher shower cream (yum!) and some other stuff, I visited an amaaaazing home decoration store (Home etcetera - Chic Ville - photos below) and I went home more powerful than ever because I had the money to buy some things for myself, some things that will remind me how pretty and powerful I am. 

   Later on I talked to a dear friend who made me remember how important it is to be kind to others:  "Be good. if you can't be good, be careful." he said using a quote from "Naked" (1993), the movie. It's kindness what people need. Not rudeness. Not madness. But kindness. Let's be kind to the others around us and if not that, at least not spread the bad energy around us. Life's tough either way.

 

[Photos from the internet because I thought it wouldn't have been nice of me to start taking photos randomly in their store. Also, sorry, I don't know the author.]